I think as we get older, and hopefully more mature, so much within us changes. I have become more aware of this on days like today, Mother's Day. If I'm totally honest, I will admit that I used to be more self centered about days like my birthday and Mother's Day.
When the kids were young, it was up to Adam to recognize these days, and in effect, recognize me. It's a bit embarrassing to admit that, but it's the truth. Then, as the kids became teenagers, I expected them to step up and acknowledge me, and my day. Forget the fact that they sometimes had trouble just keeping their own social and academic lives on track, and their heads above water.
I know how hard it was some years, when I had to make sure they made a card for Adam on Father's Day or his birthday. It was like pulling teeth to get them to find the time, and more importantly, to be able to separate themselves from their own issues, and ultimately, think about someone else.
This may sound like I'm being condescending, especially if you are a bit older than me. (I'm 47). But I'm not. Because I have realized something. The world is a much different, more complicated place than it was when we were kids. I loved making arts and crafts, writing poems, and giving small gifts to my parents. It was exciting and fulfilling for me. I also had the time.
How hard can it be for our kids today? All they need to do is take a few minutes out, and think about someone else. But it takes more than that. They also need to be able to act on those thoughts. Herein lies the problem, for some. The being able to act on those thoughts and feelings.
I know with all of my heart that our kids think about me, appreciate me, and love me. And that's more than enough for right now.
Don't worry, I did have a very nice Mother's Day today. But do you want to know my favorite gift of the day? It was when Jordan got herself out of bed before 1:00 pm, came down, ate breakfast, and helped empty the dishwasher. All on her own.
Because I understand that doing these small tasks are not easy for her these days. I also know that she did them all for me. Best. Gift. Ever. :)